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Marriage

Pleasurable Way of Increasing Good Deeds


Not only is marriage a lawful means of fulfilling a person’s desire, but is also a means of increasing one’s balance of good deeds.

Aboo Tharr reported that some of the companions of Allaah’s Messenger complained to him. “O Allaah’s Messenger! The wealthy people have taken away all of the rewards. They pray as we do and fast as we do, and they give charities from their extra monies.” He  replied:

“But has Allaah not given you that which you may offer as charity? Verily:

– Every tasbeeh (saying “Subhaan Allaah – Exalted is Allaah”) is a charity;

– Every takbeer (saying “Allaahu akbar – Allaah is the Greatest”) is a charity;

– Every tahleel (saying “Laa ilaaha illallaah – There is no true deity except Allaah”) is a charity;

–  Every tahmeed (saying “Al – hamdu lillaah – Praise be to Allaah”) is a charity;

– Commanding good is a charity;

– Forbidding the evil is a charity;

– And having intercourse (with your wife) is a charity.”

The companions asked, “O Allaah’s Messenger, does a person even receive a reward for fulfilling his desire?” He responded:

“Assume that he directed it toward a prohibition (zina), would that not result in a burden for him?”

They replied, “Yes, indeed.” He deduced:

“Therefore, if he directs it toward that which is permissible (his wife), he gets a reward for it.”

Allaah’s Messenger then mentioned a number of other things that constitute charities, and concluded by saying:

“And all of that may be covered by two rak’aat that one would pray in the mid-morning.” [Recorded by Muslim, Ahmad, and others]

Commenting on this, al-Albani said:

” As-Suyuti said in Ithkar ul-Athkar that one’s intercourse (with his wife) is a charity, even if he did not have any intention in this regard. My opinion is that this may be true for each intercourse, but he should have a prior intention in that regard at least when he first married her. And Allah knows best.” [Adab uz-Zifaf p. 138]

In a similar hadith, Abu Tharr reported that Allah’s Messenger said:

” It is required for every person, every day upon which the sun rises, to offer a charity for himself.”

Abu Tharr asked, ” O Allah’s Messenger! How can I give charity when I have no money” He replied:

” That is because among the forms of charity are:

– Takbir ( saying “Allahu akbar – Allah is the Greatest” );

– (Saying) “ Subhan Allah – Exalted be Allah “;

– (Saying) ” Al-hamdu lillah – Praise be to Allah “;

– (Saying) ” La illaha illallah – There is no true deity except Allah “;

– (Saying) ” Astaghfir Ullah – I seek forgiveness from Allah “;

– Commanding good;

– Forbiding evil;

– Removing thorns, bones, and rocks from the people’s way;

– Guiding a blind man;

– Helping a deaf and dumb man hear and understand;

– Directing a person who lost something to loss – if you know where it is;

– Running, with the power of your legs, to help one who is desperately seeking help;

– Raising, with the power of your arms, an object for a week person;

– Having intercourse with your wife: you get a reward for this as well –

All of those are forms of charity that you earn for yourself.”

Abu Tharr asked, ” How could I get a reward for fulfilling my desire?” The prophet responded:

” If you had a child who reached puberty, and you expected good from him, but he died, would you seek Allah’s reward for that?”

Abu Tharr replied, ” Yes!” The Prophet asked: ” Are you the one who created him?” Abu Tharr replied, ” No, it is Allah who created him.” The Prophet asked: ” Are you the one who guides him?” Abu Tharr replied, ” No, It is Allah who guides him!” The Prophet asked: ” Are you the one who sustains him?” Abu Tharr replied, ” no, it is Allah who sustains him!” The Prophet then said:

” Thus, place it (your seed) in what is lawful (intercourse with your wife), and avoid for it what is prohibited (zina). Then, if Allah wills, He would give it life; and if He wills, He would make it die, and you would be rewarded (in both cases).” [Recorded by Ahmad, Ibn Hibban, and an-nasa’i. verified to be authentic by al-Albani (as-Sahihah no. 575)]

 

from the book ” Quest for love and mercy” – Muhammad Mustafa al-Jibaly

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